Planning family travel comes down to a series of small, but crucial decisions. After a decade of planning family travel, I’ve come to believe that the difference between a trip that works and one that grinds everyone down comes down to a handful of things most parents never think to ask about in advance.

Many hotels claim to welcome families. Fewer have thought seriously about what that means beyond a pool with a shallow end. This list highlights the ones that have: properties where the children’s programming has real content, where kids are doing something that matters and where parents can hand them over for a morning without a second thought.

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